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Secret of Success

March 29, 2015

Spring is the perfect time to reset your sights for greater success. It may sound trite, but a key secret of success is embedded in the directive: “This above all: to thine own self be true… [and] You canst not then be false to any man.” That is a quote from Shakespeare’s Hamlet, frequently misinterpreted and derided by unenlightened critics conditioned by enculturation to see themselves and everyone else as natural born sinners. They confuse its message with an imagined directive to venerate unfounded self-esteem, false pride, and reckless narcissism. However, when true to your (higher/transcendent) self you are not only able to optimize utility to your worldly self—you also make greater contributions to the lives of others, either as a side-effect or intentionally or both. But you need to know your true self before you can be true to it.

At the core of troubled and troublesome people—whether a coworker, neighbor, spouse, or child—is an inner-being out of sync with an outer being. A person who does not know who or what they are or what they really want suffers deep existential torment that they project outward (mainly unconsciously) to make others miserable. It is a cry for help even though their egos may reject advice offered them. This rejection of help is mostly understandable because advice is typically derived from observed behavioral symptoms of the real problem whereas people naturally and intuitively want to be genuinely and wholly well, not patched-up. They just do not know where to begin.

If you have dealt with such people (or are like this yourself at times) you are familiar with the responses you get to questions such as: What’s wrong? What do you want? In answering, some will respond with a petty and superficial immediate complaint, but the more thoughtful and self-honest will commonly say: “I don’t know.” They only know that they are not happy campers, not feeling well inside, and not pleased about life in general. Some stay stuck in that state and others make bold changes. Those who make changes typically base their change-related decisions on one factor that they perceive as being the major issue. Money is a frequent motivator to action. I have seen young people give up a career in law, for example, to work on a garbage truck just because the sanitation job paid better right away.

An enlightened psychotherapist can serve as a useful guide, but the conventionally trained therapist is not much more aware of who and what they are than is the average person. The answer to what you are is: an extension of Source Energy Awareness (what some call Child of God). The answer to who you are can only be answered by you, and, again: you need to know who you are before you can be true to yourself—before you can invest yourself fully in you to the benefit of yourself, the community, and the world. The good news is that discovering who you are is simple because humans are instruments of desire. The following is a tried-and-true method validated by the Noetitek™ system:

• Get a legal pad and draw a line down the center, making two columns. At the top of the first column write “Strongly Like,” and at the top of the other write “Strongly Dislike.”

• Under “Strongly Like” make an unnumbered list of anything and everything you can think of that you like—people, places, shapes, colors, things, foods, experiences, seasons, sensations, etcetera. Try to keep each item to one or two words.

• Under “Strongly Dislike” list anything and everything you dislike. If you appreciate/value something only because it serves as a bad example or seems unavoidable or appears to serve some terrible but possibly useful purpose in the world, put it on this list. Putting “warfare” on this list does not make you a bad citizen, for example. Again, one or two words per item.

• Make the two lists as exhaustive as possible in one sitting, which may be hours long.

• Make sure that every item reflects your own personal true feeling.

• When finished, scan the lists, and let your subconscious mind absorb this information. You knew these things before but have not processed them all together and at once until now.

• Hold in mind the desire to include in your near future only those things on your Strongly Like list and to exclude everything you listed under Strongly Dislike
• Put the lists in a private place and return to your usual course of activity. Avoid worrying. Recall past successes of all kinds. Insights, ideas, and solutions in the form of words and/or mental images will bubble up on their own and surface unexpectedly, so keep a small pad and pen handy at all times. The results can seem magical.

• Add items to the lists from time to time. Items can also be removed but this should be rare if you were honest in the first place.

This method works fastest and with the most striking results when used at a critical turning (or breaking) point, such as when a job has been lost or a spouse has announced an intention to initiate a divorce. Put the energy into this task rather than draining it with negative emotional reactions associated with fear, self-pity, and victimhood. However, there is no need to wait for such dramatic events; all that is required is mustering a strong desire—a deep need to know and engage the Truth of Self. Being true to thine own self is not for the lax or lazy-minded, yet it is not a burden. Creating your life experience is within your power. Have fun with it.